Disappearing Act

Why? I just want to know.

 Some things are difficult, and complex. But it seems to be that there are still a few simple things in life that remain, no matter how much we clutter our experience.

 So please, tell me why...why does anyone think that repeated abandonment in the midst of a special relationship will never affect its longevity and health?

 No one is perfect, and this can especially be true in the midst of the dire imperfections of life. It seems like few have really made the effort to train their hearts on how to handle difficulty well.

 But, no matter what other areas of lacking conflict resolution or response to hurt from within or outside the relationship, there are at least a couple things that must be avoided as much as possible. One of those things...

 The Disappearing Act

 If there is one thing that is about the most counterproductive thing to do in a relationship besides unfaithfulness and dishonesty, it is abandon your partner during difficult times.

 Now, there are some things to this that don't make this very cut and dry, I understand.

 Sometimes we need time and space to sort through thoughts, emotions and experiences. And we definitely need at least some time with God to bear our heart and soul to. And some of us have experienced things in the past that require a little extra personal maintenance in stressful situations.

 But there is a vast difference between these things and neglecting your partner. Even in these situations, you can at least let them know what's going on and that you are taking some time for it.

 This not only keeps us from adding yet another issue to work through in the already existent problem, but it also maintains a dignity and understood respect within the relationship. It reinforces the friendship and solidarity between us and our partner.

 I cannot stress enough how important and powerful this is.

 So, let's do something to work in this area of each of our relationships, or for our future relationships if we are single. Let's think about how we can handle our partner well.

 Hey, I didn't say it would always be easy. But the more humble and unconditional we allow our love and conduct to be, and the more we keep in mind the priceless value of that really good one, it truly gets easier to do this and to make it a practice and a behavior.

 Come, let's do this. No more disappearing acts. What do you say?

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