Eagles Point

True love will be there. When others don't show up. Even when you don't show up. True love sees you for who you are from the deep, from the innate. It sees your brokenness, that which has been done to you, and yes, that which you've done, that has yet to be healed. And it wants you anyway. It longs to cover you, to heal you, to free you. To just sit with you and hold you. True love sees who you are called to be, purely. It sees your beauty from the inside-out. Respects and treasures you. Knows you for who you really are. True love calls from its deep to the deep of your heart. Come to Me. I've been waiting for you. I don't want your kingdoms. I want you. True love never runs out. But time does. We can't afford to risk what isn't worth the risk. If you don't have tomorrow, which you may not, do you want true love today? Do you remember this is what we're made for? This is the substance of true life, of truly living? Are you operating from a deficit? W...

There is a fire that has been lit. A holy, liquid fire that has been awakened. ...But not without a severe price. What do you do when true love has been abruptly aborted, without notice? How does the heart process such instant loss? A freight train running silently through the night. The heart laid softly upon the tracks, unwitting to its owner. One moment it beats. The next, it doesn't. Many of us have been rejected, abandoned, but some of us may have experienced this on a magnitude and in a way that was so surprising, that we had to wade through several cycles of shock and layers of confusion and suffering before we could even get to the pure emotional grieving of loss of love. But God is in the emergency room. And the operating table is our altar. To have sprinted marathon after marathon, chasing breath that cannot be caught, fist-fighting enemy spirits on a level that has never been experienced before, and not being able to get simple rest and processing of hurt and s...

A word for all, at some point or another in this journey. Particularly to my sisters, but can be cross-pollinated for my brothers... I just wanted to take a moment to inspire and encourage your dignity and self-worth. Something this world and men will rarely do for you, so it's something you have to engrain in your being and stand in it confidently. First, a thought about following up after a breakup… Whenever you need to break something off with someone, you ideally want to clearly state as short as possible, and without talking about feelings, etc, that you are done and no more contact. Then, if they continue to try to reach you, you should not reply and everything their thoughts or questions, because it otherwise weakens your initial words and respect for your position (except if there is important business to manage with them in the breakup). This helps them get to the point of accepting your position and begin to get on with their life, and it forces them to respect your word...

Some people take a scientific approach to things that are innately an art. And while there is a science to relationships, it is at its core an art.   There’s nothing wrong with plans, fixes, solution-searching, assessment, and the like. All these things are necessary, vital aspects of working and growing a relationship. The art of relationship depends upon scientific aspects to help keep it well.   However, when there is brokenness or other serious issues in the relationship itself that run deep beneath the surface, there is no scientific focus that can reach and heal that. Science may be able to operate on the physical heart, but it cannot with the heart of a person, and the heart of a relationship.   The heart of a person is the core determination of the health of a relationship. The Bible says for us to guard our hearts because out of the heart flow the issues of life. Each person has to not only have their heart in it, but be willing to work on their hearts for change where they fa...

Many people do not know the meaning of forever. They think it is related to when they experience an amazing feeling with someone or something, and they begin to make false promises and empty commitments. Forever is a heartlock. If a man says he loves you, find out what he wants: your body, or your heart. Deprive him of your body, and you'll see what you really have. Relationships are like a boat assail. Vulnerable to the elements. Dependent upon the breath of the sky. The only thing it can control is the direction it will lean into…if there is any motion at all. There are those who are engaged in communication and interaction with their significant, and yet they are being fed by empty clouds. They are not being loved. They are not being cherished. They are not being noticed. They are hoping, waiting, wanting rainfall. They dream of it, they long for it. They are hoping for rain, but little do they know they are simply waiting on the wind. Because the wind is all those...

This is primarily note to self, using a post to archive some of my comments, which I may add to. Still good reading for anyone who comes across this… Men of misogyny are selfish, self-consumed people, and they feed off their position of power with women, if the woman gives it to them. They’ll take it and run with it as far as their selfish selves can. Just like an adult child. They don’t want things to change, they’re definitely benefiting from the woman working two full time jobs (work and caring for the kids) while they only have the one, if even that. Men benefit from the assumed roles. I remember as a child feeling this way in my upbringing, although I had my chores. It created a culture and attitude of laziness in me that I knew was wrong and unfair, and that one day I was going to have to address…which I did. And this projects into every area, including sex and sexual behaviors. Why do you think men leave their significants and spouses? They are self-centered, self-absor...

I’m not entirely sure how this is going to go, er, perhaps go over, or how long it will even stay posted. But as it is with those who use this forum, among other things, to give expression to regions of the heart and life that otherwise have no outlet and need released, so goes the following cross-section of the soul… I recently had meaningful conversations (from long to very short) with six people in a two-day span (entirely rare for any given month). God has used these inspiring communications to bring me to a certain place I have desperately needed to be, and have tried to approach in occasional meager ways, but have primarily avoided out of fear. Somehow these chats stood me in front of a mirror, cleared my eyes, and guided me to look straight ahead and tell myself what I see. It’s amazing to observe the cohabitation of firm faith and fragile vulnerability within the same heart. It feels like two polar opposites on the ends of an unusually long teeter totter, with faith being like ...

I had to post some important article links that someone recently put online, with summary highlights below. They were too good to pass up and not archive on this blog. One of the core passions that burns within me is the area of relationships. These articles are very good, encouraging, with sound practicalities based on timeless principles. While not all-inclusive, it’s good nonetheless. And with content from the actual articles, I had to add my own thoughts, sometimes extensively, to reinforce the principles… http://www.marriageeasy.com/how-to-safeguard-your-marriage-2-simple-tips-that-will-amaze-the-heck-out-of-you/ Notes: Do for your spouse what you need and want from him or her. (Now, while I’m 100% on this, I’m not 1000%. I’d probably slightly edit it to say, do for them what you know they want and need, and communicate your needs in the process.) Do not get too cozy on the internet. This is simply referring to emotional and relationship fidelity. Draw clear boundaries with re...

We see movies and read books about it. Sometimes we hear people’s stories that resemble closely what we have imagined it to be. Whether there were flashing lights or just ordinary circumstances, people can just know things in their hearts when they meet someone of significance. There is something to be said for when you know you have met someone who is like no other to your heart whatsoever, that one in a million person, even once in a lifetime. There are handfuls of people who are amazing and unique, and unlike anyone else. In fact, of course, we all are like that. But there is a difference between meeting someone who is so unique and coming across someone who is so innately uniquely engaged with you deep within. There is a difference between observing someone to be so special and seeing someone matching your heart and soul so naturally and rightly in a way you have never experienced before. Except perhaps in your imagination, or dreams, or prayers. B...

When people talk about communication skills, it seems more often than not that they are referring to giving communication, on a verbal and nonverbal level. And we are all in a variety of places when it comes to our ability and comfort level to communicate. Some are good at chatting. Some are good at sharing thoughts and ideas. Some are good at sharing their feelings. Some are not as good at or comfortable with one or more of these things. And it is important to work in these areas to a reasonable degree, especially with spouses, children, parents and other close ones to us. As a dear friend of mine said, we should be living and experiencing life with everyone around us, not just one select person (if even that). But I believe the other side of communication is not referenced enough: listening. Some of us may have heard or read a good message or two about it, but let us just drop a few encouraging reminders to circulate our thinking and permeate our mode of operation… Listening we...