Relational Laze
In meaningful courtships, at some point there will always be some things each person does that is not entirely helpful for the other person or the relationship in general. There must be at least two things resident in these cases: a genuine interest and desire from each for the other and for the relationship to endure, and a grain-of-salt-like well of grace that is truly resident within for that partner.
These are the makings of an unconditional love that will be vital in the health and durability of the relationship, a love that is not worked up or manufactured, but rather harvested and fed. To summarize, these two must both exist:
1. A genuine desire to love and commit to the other that is found to be innate and beyond just the pure emotionality of the relationship.
2. An enduring effort of investing in the other with the goal of the beauty of the relationship and its fruits in mind.
Basically, you can't expect a crop without the seed being in the ground, no matter how much you do the tilling and fertilizing. And likewise, even if you have the real deal, the true seeds of desire and love for a lasting relationship with someone, you still have to put in the work to nurture and grow that relationship.
We are often relationally lazy. We can too easily be selfish and unwilling to alter (or altar) mentalities and reflexes that are detrimental to the condition of our partner's heart and the relationship overall. We must realize that our partner is not superhuman. No matter how good or wonderful they may be, or how real and genuine our relationship is with them, we can't take these things for granted.
So...how many of us have habits or patterns of behavior that are unhelpful? If we are honest with ourselves, can we improve the way we react to things or conduct ourselves towards our partner? Would we be pleased if we were treated the same, or if our buttons were pushed with disregard?
Why not take a step to make a difference in our relationships? Especially if we truly have one of those special persons that just don't come along very often in life. What do you think?
As a matter of fact, why don't we seek to become one of those special people that don't come along very often in life?
These are the makings of an unconditional love that will be vital in the health and durability of the relationship, a love that is not worked up or manufactured, but rather harvested and fed. To summarize, these two must both exist:
1. A genuine desire to love and commit to the other that is found to be innate and beyond just the pure emotionality of the relationship.
2. An enduring effort of investing in the other with the goal of the beauty of the relationship and its fruits in mind.
Basically, you can't expect a crop without the seed being in the ground, no matter how much you do the tilling and fertilizing. And likewise, even if you have the real deal, the true seeds of desire and love for a lasting relationship with someone, you still have to put in the work to nurture and grow that relationship.
We are often relationally lazy. We can too easily be selfish and unwilling to alter (or altar) mentalities and reflexes that are detrimental to the condition of our partner's heart and the relationship overall. We must realize that our partner is not superhuman. No matter how good or wonderful they may be, or how real and genuine our relationship is with them, we can't take these things for granted.
So...how many of us have habits or patterns of behavior that are unhelpful? If we are honest with ourselves, can we improve the way we react to things or conduct ourselves towards our partner? Would we be pleased if we were treated the same, or if our buttons were pushed with disregard?
Why not take a step to make a difference in our relationships? Especially if we truly have one of those special persons that just don't come along very often in life. What do you think?
As a matter of fact, why don't we seek to become one of those special people that don't come along very often in life?
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