Situating Your Situation
When you feel compassion for the person you are separating from, this is an important part of the process. You're coming from a better place within, now, a more centered and even Christlike vantage point.
Now remember, we still always have to hold on to the whole truth. Every comment from anyone, we have to correct untruths and partial truths in our minds (and sometimes with the people we're talking to, when appropriate and without getting to an argument) every single time. Otherwise we will carry burden that isn't even based on facts.
This will help you trust God with their heart and life, especially the day you give that last, closing prayer for them, where you truly put them in His hands for good. It's okay to know that they are hurting. We just remember the full truth of who is responsible and this cannot be avoided. But we also remember God is so much bigger than this, and is able to use this to save their life spiritually (and hopefully for future relationships, if they allow themselves to see and learn from their failures). We have to trust God in this.
You have to ultimately be true to yourself and the Holy Spirit with you…and then be decisive. Decisiveness is vital. Limbo is a very bad state to be in. In limbo, your healing and recovery is on hold, and so is his! In limbo, there is still a belief that there is a chance because the other hasn't followed through with their words (sorta like the need to do what you say with a child or else they'll never respect or value your words). In limbo, people are stuck. You don't want him to hurt anymore than he has to. You don't want to be stuck any longer than you have to. Decisiveness and action are the answer. Both of you need closure.
All this highlights the importance of being sure of yourself with the Holy Spirit, and then staying focused on the truth of how things really were, and not letting people dictate your life who weren't there, weren't in your shoes. There will be some times when it will feel like everyone and everything are against you, and it will seem like truth is literally all you have left with you. But in those moments, the truth is more than enough, every time. I promise. For one, because God was there, going through it all with you. And secondly, God always permeates truth. So you'll always have Him when you hold onto the truth. And that's the One you really need with you.
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Eagles Point
A safe place of rest
Now remember, we still always have to hold on to the whole truth. Every comment from anyone, we have to correct untruths and partial truths in our minds (and sometimes with the people we're talking to, when appropriate and without getting to an argument) every single time. Otherwise we will carry burden that isn't even based on facts.
This will help you trust God with their heart and life, especially the day you give that last, closing prayer for them, where you truly put them in His hands for good. It's okay to know that they are hurting. We just remember the full truth of who is responsible and this cannot be avoided. But we also remember God is so much bigger than this, and is able to use this to save their life spiritually (and hopefully for future relationships, if they allow themselves to see and learn from their failures). We have to trust God in this.
You have to ultimately be true to yourself and the Holy Spirit with you…and then be decisive. Decisiveness is vital. Limbo is a very bad state to be in. In limbo, your healing and recovery is on hold, and so is his! In limbo, there is still a belief that there is a chance because the other hasn't followed through with their words (sorta like the need to do what you say with a child or else they'll never respect or value your words). In limbo, people are stuck. You don't want him to hurt anymore than he has to. You don't want to be stuck any longer than you have to. Decisiveness and action are the answer. Both of you need closure.
All this highlights the importance of being sure of yourself with the Holy Spirit, and then staying focused on the truth of how things really were, and not letting people dictate your life who weren't there, weren't in your shoes. There will be some times when it will feel like everyone and everything are against you, and it will seem like truth is literally all you have left with you. But in those moments, the truth is more than enough, every time. I promise. For one, because God was there, going through it all with you. And secondly, God always permeates truth. So you'll always have Him when you hold onto the truth. And that's the One you really need with you.
...
Eagles Point
A safe place of rest
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