All Up In Your Emotions

I cannot stand this phrase. It is one of the small handful that give me the dumb chills ever since first hearing it.

This word is going to sound less artistic and more informational, and it is intended to be applied to situations and people with filters and discretion, understanding that I am not addressing the whole of the scope of emotional behavior and reactivity. But for those situations to which this applies...

Many of us may have heard people say that someone is "all up in their emotions" when that person is having a vulnerable moment. It may have been said about us at some point.

Whether it be this particular phrase or something similar to it, it can sound a little demeaning to the vulnerable person, and it may come across as devaluing their feelings.

We know that feelings can be based in things that aren't fully true, but the feelings themselves are valid and still must be worked through before correcting or addressing any truth or misinformation behind them.

Moreover, the person might not feel heard when someone responds to them or talks about them with that phrase or similar attitude. They may feel like a child, or like they are wrong for feeling the way they do.

I know there are people who allow themselves to have no restraint or take advantage of emotional expression to manipulate people or situations. We have to use discretion with how we handle everything. But within reason, maybe we can take a more compassionate approach to one another when someone is hurt, sad or confused about something. I think that will help us tremendously in our relationships and ability to truly be there for one another. And we might find that we are able to help disengage the catalyst that fuel emotions becoming disproportionate to the circumstances, just by having a gentle, disarming patience.

This in itself takes a great deal of our own heart work to develop these areas of relational and emotional maturity, but it is not impossible. It just takes self-initiative. But why not do it? We will find deep wells of healing and refreshing for our own heart and soul in the process.

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