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The Rejection Factor

We are not supposed to use paper towels and clothing to wipe our eyeglasses. It creates micro-scratches on the (ironically) scratch-resistant film that coats the lenses. Over time, the film breaks down and becomes cloudy. The lenses have to be replaced at that point. We need to use a clean microfiber cloth, with optional cleaning solution, when there are spots and blurs on our lenses. Wouldn't it be easy to just stop there, instead of peering inside and addressing the eyes of the heart? The wear and tear of life causes our vision to be fatigued and blurred, and in order to still see things accurately and not from the adverse aftereffects of our experiences, we need corrective lenses. Lenses that will help us to see things clearly, accurately, as they actually are. However, we've gotten a little unwittingly clever at doctoring those lenses. Even they can get tainted, distorted, damaged, or perhaps purposely painted with stained portraits of our own choosing. It takes a...

Dreams of the Heart

A worthwhile devotional that needs to be shared and heard in the heart, author unknown... Have you ever had a dream that died? Maybe it was a business idea that you just knew would make you millions. Maybe it was a dream romance that went downhill. Sometimes we don’t live happily ever after. Dreams don’t always come true. And to be honest, some dreams shouldn’t come true. But that doesn’t make them hurt any less when they shatter in front of our eyes. Dreamers are near to God’s heart — the Bible is full of them. Just because a few of your dreams have turned out to be nightmares doesn’t mean you should stop dreaming. But remember that your dream might have to die before it lives. In the Bible, the story of Joseph the dreamer ends with a happily ever after. But Joseph had to go through several death experiences to get there, including betrayal, slavery, years of hard work, and years in prison. I’m sure there were times he thought his life was over and all hope was lost. But w...

Connecting Humanly

A vulnerable representation of the heart... How candid and purely real are we willing to be with ourselves? At a certain point, shouldn't we just stop facade-ing with our stained-glass mirrors? What if we found that place to be very plain with self and God? Being willing to be wrong, to confess self-servedness, to admit our need of meaningful relationship with people and God. To understand our desperate need of the Cross, and a Friend, all at the same time. Why do I write? Many of us may use it as a pressure relief valve of so much within that needs an outlet. Some of that may be passion, brokenness, loneliness, excitement, exploration, verbal processing, spiritual intimacy...or simply quaint pleasure and musing. One thing I do know, which I've observed in people near to my season of life: I just want someone to talk to. And, some one to talk to. It is of the deepest regions of the heart that this is penned. And so often do I/we/you/we/I feel misunderstood, miscateg...

Abide

A devotional from an insightful man worth sharing... Psalm 91:1 Many of us may be often seen as leaders—at work, at home, and even among friends. The pressure to always have the answers and be the one others rely on can leave us feeling depleted. Leadership doesn’t mean running on empty or ignoring your own need for renewal. True strength comes from leading with rest , rooted in God’s presence and power. Men are such instinctive “doers” and “fixers” that we tend to easily fill our lives with non-stop action. We have to train ourselves to slow down and be intentional about hitting “pause” in the busyness of life. We need to learn to sit still for a moment, long enough to reflect on God’s goodness and presence in our lives. In Psalm 46:10, God invites us to stop striving and “be still.” Stillness is not inactivity —it’s a deliberate pause to actively recognize that God is in control. When we quiet ourselves before Him, we remember that it’s not all up to us. Resting in God allows...

Healing the Heart of Family Trauma

 A woman's testimony, cutting into the conversation... Well she made different relationships with each of my siblings and me. Treated each of us differently from the beginning. We all had different experiences with her. My youngest brother wasn’t made to do anything but what he wanted and with his bad behavior and poor choices he thought he deserved all her punishments and yelling. He can’t possibly imagine why any of us might have a different perspective. He never saw and doesn’t remember how she made me cook, clean, bathe him and our kid sister, work in the house and in the yard. He never had to. It blows my mind. I remember cramping so hard I had diarrhea and she made me mow the lawn on my one day off while my brothers played video games in the air conditioning. She was very different and particularly mean to me. The youngest brother would never know. And Mom knew what she was doing. I can’t imagine treating my child that way. I have taught her how to work hard and the value o...

Healthy Men

A word worth sharing, given from a woman's perspective. Wisdom and insight, and undoubtedly experience speaking here... A healed man won't chase you, he'll pursue you, and there's a difference. He knows his worth and understands yours. His pursuit is respectful and intentional, filled with genuine care and affection. He approaches relationships with clarity and purpose, never with desperation or insecurity. A healed man communicates openly and honestly. He values transparency and believes in the power of honest conversations. His words are thoughtful and considerate, aimed at fostering mutual understanding and trust. He listens as much as he speaks, ensuring that both voices are heard and valued. A healed man embraces his past but doesn't let it define him. He has faced his wounds and learned from them, emerging stronger and wiser. His experiences have shaped him, but they do not control him. He moves forward with a sense of peace and acceptance, ready to build a fu...